Do you ever have those moments when you look at a pair of shoes, or a shirt, or a pair of pants and imagine how you’ll look in that brand new outfit? It’ll be perfect and fit perfectly and you’ll look like a model. You’ll strut out of the house in the morning with your perfect outfit on ready to face the day.
Let’s be real, this is me. This is me more often than I care to admit.
I’ll find something that I really like, imagine how it’ll look and think about how perfect it’ll be.
Then, I’ll try it on, and it will look absolutely nothing like how I want it to look! This is actual agony. I laugh because sometimes I’ll try something on and talk to myself at how silly I was to put those expectations on myself.
Now, I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in this, because the dressing room return pile is never small.
The interesting part about setting these high expectations with my clothing is that I come out of the dressing room feeling somewhat defeated. It’s as if I blame myself for not meeting my own expectations. I go in thinking how excited I am, and come out feeling a bit lost.
In life, I know I have gone in to a situation with high hopes and an expectation of how I want the situation to turn out, only to come out feeling defeated and a little lost. In those cases I’m not sure which way to turn.
Now maybe my dressing room metaphor is a bit of a stretch, but I know it’s one we can all relate to.
So often, we have these high expectations of ourselves; things we want to accomplish. We go ahead and try to attempt those things and the outcome is not how we expected. It’s like reality is staring back at us in the mirror.
Lately I have been feeling this way; so many dreams and goals and aspirations and passions are building up and I’m not really sure how to accomplish them. The outlets I had once thought would work seem to me they are arriving at dead ends.
But I know that if I keep looking, I’ll eventually find a way to make those goals and dreams become the reality staring me back in the mirror. I know that if I keep trying things on, eventually I will reach success.
It’s a comfort to know there’s more opportunity out there. There’s more sweaters, more jeans, more boots. However, the right pair may not show up right away. It doesn’t mean I should stop looking, and neither should you. If you’re in this situation where you feel slightly stuck, I encourage you to keep looking around. Stop and appreciate what is around you and know more doors will open.
Rome wasn’t built in a day. Neil Armstrong didn’t step foot on the moon after only a day’s work. Edison didn’t discover the light bulb on the first try. In fact, Einstein dropped out of school. Lin Manuel took seven years to write Hamilton.
Whatever metaphor or inspirational figurehead you choose to look up to, I can guarantee they didn’t find success from a lack of trying. They kept on going, and so can you.
I believe in you! You’ve got this!