For the most part, I am a pretty cheery person. I love making people smile and I do try to look for the good in situations. Lately, I’ve noticed in the rush of trying to accomplish tasks, and the stress I’ve felt with trying to complete them, I have been frustrated more and more. Instead of letting my frustration go, I make myself anxious/nervous/fill-in-the-blank, because I feel like I need to solve the problem. Basically, it’s a large mumble-jumble of emotions that don’t go away.
I don’t think I’m alone in this one.
In this day and age, humans have commitments, and they don’t seem to be going away any time soon. I think it’s safe to say that our plates are getting “fuller” as time goes on.
So then the question becomes, how do we as humans, normally respond to our frustrations?
Normally, it’s with anger. We lash out, say mean words, or do things we regret. It’s usually an unfortunate situation and definitely epitomizes the phrase, “Fight fire with fire.” When we are frustrated we are defensive and prepped to fight back. Or, we use our flight instinct and run away from the problem. Either way it’s a lose-lose situation because we aren’t addressing our problems first hand. We let those problems sink under our skin and take hold. Often if we do this those problems will fester in to something worse. And honestly it’s just not quite worth it.
Instead of fighting frustration with anger, why don’t we try facing our problems head on? Addressing the situation can be quite frightening at times, but in the end it is worth it and can save us the headache of those problems building in the future.
So what does addressing the situation really look like?
There’s plenty of ways to handle stress and frustrations, and for me, there’s one method I’ve been learning a lot about to solve my problems.
I was struck by this verse this week, Ephesians 4: 29, which states, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Instead of lashing out and using words we may regret in response to frustration, it is much better to change our thinking of how we handle a situation and just pray about it and reflect on it. Prayer has a way of creating a space around a situation. It’s a way to relieve you of your problems and give them to God. Through prayer, we can ask Him to handle the situation and give us the strength to deal with the problems.
Prayer is the most powerful way to handle a situation.
It was quite the realization this week when I noticed how I respond to stressful and frustrating situations. By handling a situation in prayer instead of putting the stress back on myself, I have found the stress to be gone because I know He’s got my back. It’s almost been a relief really, to give my problems and fears to God. By truly letting Him know that I need God and the strength to handle my problems, it’s as if the problems become all but obsolete. I’ve also found that by handling the situation in prayer and letting my response be prayer, I am doing a favor for those around me. No one wants to see me frustrated and upset, and I also don’t want those emotions to rub off on others. Being positive and using prayer as a response is something I’ve found to be more meaningful that any other method. I’m not sure what your beliefs are on this, but whatever it is, I hope you can see Prayer as a method for helping you in your times of weakness and frustration.
I’m not sure what you’re going through today, or what battle you are facing. What I do know is that you don’t have to fight that battle alone. Changing the tide on how you respond to a situation does a great deal for yourself and the others around you, and who knows? It may make a pretty positive impact on your day.
How about you? What is something you do to respond positively to a frustrating situation?
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